On Finding Yourself

What does it mean to find yourself?
What does it mean to be happy with your"self" enough to feel accomplished and dignified.
If that is what you are seeking to achieve?

With a family, a husband, a career, what do you find wanting?
The stuff we have, that we think we need.

And the expectations that have been set before us, we consume
like a plate of food,
we eat like a child,
who doesn't yet know she has a choice.

Sometimes that choice is only to go hungry.
Sometimes that choice means cold cereal, but reliable and consistent.

Finding our "selves" appears to be a secondary mission of our lives.
The first mission is to accomplish things, acquire stuff, use time to make money.

How do we uncover that instead of things, we need people,
and without stuff, there is more room,
and time is as precious as money.